Love by Design: 6 Ingredients to Build a Lifetime of Love

Redefine romance and build loving connections you yearn for with the help of this guide for couples—perfect for readers of 8 Rules of Love and the Love Prescription.

Grounded in two decades of original research and work with couples from around the world, Love by Design introduces a groundbreaking new foundation for love: The Emergent Love Model. As Dr. Sara Nasserzadeh knows, successful partnerships do not thrive on love, at least as we know it. Instead of chasing our butterflies, we need to cultivate six core relational ingredients that make it possible for love to emerge:

·Attraction: What do you like and value about each other?
·Respect: How do you keep each other’s needs and priorities in mind?
·Trust: Do you know that you will show up for each other consistently?
·Compassion: Can you honor the other’s emotional experience without making it about you?
·Shared vision: Where are you committed to going together?
·Loving behaviors: How do you show your partner they’re special to you?

Offering dozens of exercises and reflection prompts, this groundbreaking book gives readers a new foundation for a thriving, lasting coupledom.

Dr. Sara Nasserzadeh, Ph.D., is a world-renowned social psychologist, sexologist, and relationship expert. She has spent over 20 years working with thousands of couples in more than 40 countries. She is highly regarded by her peers as a Key Opinion Leader and has multitude of articles, books and book chapters to her credit. Her work has also been featured in media around the world, including NPR, BBC, ABC, CNN and Goop. 
 

ISBN: 9781538742921
Format: Paperback
Pages: 352
Publisher: Grand Central Publishing
Published: February 04, 2025

“A revelatory re-conceptualization of how we create love. No other book so seamlessly blends scientific evidence with diversity and acceptance.”—Dr. Emily Nagoski, bestselling author of Come As You Are and Burnout“Dr. Nasserzadeh is an important relationship scholar and gifted clinician. Her vision of Emergent Love will revolutionize your relationship.”—Dr. Pepper Schwartz, Professor of Sociology at the University of Washington and New York Times bestselling author"Love by Design is an essential read for those looking to cultivate connected and fulfilling intimate relationships. Her model of emergent love will transform how you enter your next relationship or enliven the one you are in for years to come."—Alexandra H. Solomon, PhD, faculty at Northwestern University, bestselling author of Love Every Day and host of the podcast, Reimagining Love“In Love by Design, Dr. Nasserzadeh brings us an exciting, sustainable way of perceiving and living love."—Guy Winch, TED Speaker and author of How to Fix A Broken Heart"Love by Design supports the wisdom of ages with original evidence-informed research to create a realistic and powerful way to make love work for modern relationships."—Susan Quilliam, author of the revised The Joy of Sex"Clear, concise, and wise. Dr. Nasserzadeh encourages us toward greater self-awareness, teaching readers how to strengthen our bonds by bringing compassion, loving communication, and more to their partnerships. It would do all of us well to heed her expert guidance.”—Barry R. Komisaruk, Ph.D, Distinguished Professor, Psychology at Rutgers University and co-author of The Orgasm Answer Guide."This wise, practical book sheds new light on the perennial question of how to keep romantic love alive. Read it and be prepared never to think about love the same way again." —Stephen Snyder M.D. Author, Love Worth Making“Dr. Sara has elevated the common Venn diagram to a work of art. Or rather a work of love. Understanding your relational overlap (where 'me' meets 'we') is at the heart of her concept of emergent love, and Love by Design will show you how to occupy your 'we-space' to the fullest. ”—Ian Kerner, sex therapist and best-selling author of She Comes First"Everyone wants to experience the spirit and joy of love. Here are insights on how to ignite the delights of a long life of ‘love you forever and love you for always.'"—Mark Victor Hansen, Co-Creator of the New York Times' bestselling Chicken Soup for the Soul Series